When girl grows up in community choked with Mormons, and when that girl happens to be a member of said affiliation, she comes to accept certain cultural beliefs as definite truths:
1. Caffeinated drinks are equal to alcohol.
2. If you can’t cook your family will suffer all the days of your life.
3. Working outside the home is distasteful for a woman, at times is a necessary evil, but you’re creating a broken home if you actually enjoy it.
4. Listening to rap music is like listening to Satan hum in your ear.
5. Brigham Young University is the only acceptable institution of higher education.
6. Women only serve a mission if you can’t get married and have nothing else going on.
7. You will grow up to be married in the temple sometime between the age of 19 and 21.
a. The man you marry MUST be Mormon- MUST be a return missionary- MUST be able to support 25 children… at least.I would agree that caffeinated beverages are not healthy, cooking is a useful hobby, I loved having a stay at home as a kid and would hope to be able to do that for my children, I prefer mellow tunes, BYU (and its sister schools) are cheaper for Mormons, you probably shouldn't apply to serve a mission if you've got something else going on (like being on parole), and the mission is a good experience that will help anyone with future life problems. BUT if a person veers from this path it doesn't mean they took the elevator to hell.
I can’t say that I actually know many members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints that hold these ideas to be self evident truths, but I do think that it’s spinning in the back of many members minds.
Don’t feel bad if you can’t hammer out all your biases in one stroke!
Once upon a time the prophet Peter struggled with this problem. In Acts 10 he refused food that God set before him in a vision three times because he said that they were “unclean”. How Did God respond? He said “What God has cleansed, that call not thou unclean” (verse 15).
Even Joseph Smith “marveled greatly’ (Joseph Smith History 1:44) when he received a vision that overthrew all the cultural ideas of ‘truth’ that he had been taught.
Only our Heavenly Father decides who is ready to progress in His gospel and He does not base it off of who can make the best cheerio-spinach casserole. We do that. And we prevent others from coming to the church and progress by imposing these cultural beliefs on them.
So how do we stop ourselves? How can we be true to ourselves but accepting of the other vessels around us that God has called clean?
I don’t know, ask Him.